What Do I Say...?

  • Keep in mind when trying to find the right words to say to someone in grief context, timing and who is saying them is everything!

    The Best Things to Say to Someone in Grief

    1. I am so sorry for your loss.
    2. I wish I had the right words, just know I care.
    3. I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help in any way I can.
    4. You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers.
    5. My favorite memory of your loved one is….
    6. I am always just a phone call away.
    7. Give a hug instead of saying something.
    8. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you.
    9. I am usually up early or late, if you need anything.
    10. Saying nothing; just be present with the person.
       

    Try to avoid saying these things to Someone in Grief

    1. At least she lived a long life, many people die young.
    2. He is in a better place.
    3. She brought this on herself.
    4. There is a reason for everything.
    5. Aren’t you over him yet, he has been dead for a while now.
    6. You can have another child still.
    7. She was such a good person God wanted her to be with him.
    8. I know how you feel.
    9. She did what she came here to do and it was her time to go.
    10. Be strong. 
       

    Many of us have said “The Best” and “The Worst.” We meant no harm. In fact, we meant just the opposite. We were trying to comfort. A grieving person may say one of the worst ones about themselves and its okay. Keep in mind when trying to find the right words to say to someone in grief—context, timing and who is saying them is everything!

    Please visit the Camarillo Hospice website for more information.